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Doshon Farad: Erykah Badu; My Celebrity Wife

By Doshon Farad

Look, I’ll tell anybody, Erykah Badu is my wife even if she doesn’t know it yet. LOL! Yes, I’m the first to admit that in regards to Ms. Badu, I’m highly delusional. LOL!

Now before you women start coming at me and saying, “Oh all you men only started liking her because she now has a big behind that she showed off in that video”, let me correct you by saying that I loved her before she swelled up. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll tell anyone that I love black women regardless of complexion, hair texture, physical shapes or style of dress. I must admit, however, that I am often partial to our sisters who adorn the Afrocentric look. I’m definitely a sucker for women with locs (dreads).

I first began listening to Erykah during my freshman year of college in 1996, which was also the year she released her first album “Baduizm”. But when I actually fell in love with her as a singer, was after the release of her second Album “Erykah Badu Live” which came out the following year. This was during the time that the whole “Baduizm” phase began where we saw black women across the country rapping their hair in geles or African head scarves. Since that time I’ve developed a spiritual fixation on the Dallas, TX native.

She is one of the most authentic artists of our time. She could arguably be Neo Soul’s number one artist (BUT PLEASE DON’T TELL JILL SCOTT I SAID THAT, LOL!). To me she embodies all of the great ones who came before her i.e. Billie Holiday –whose influence can clearly be heard- Aretha Franklin, Etta James, Nina Simone, Gladys Knight, Patti Labelle, Chaka Khan and several other lyrical divas whose music has left everlasting impressions on our psyches. And if you listen closely you can even hear a touch of Roy Ayers.

Regardless of what I may be going through, Badu’s music always places me in a meditative mood, whether she’s performing on a CD or live. In fact, I’m listening to one of her songs as I write this article. LOL! I’ve had the privilege of meeting Ms. Badu several times and I must say that her aura/spirit –or whatever you wish to call it- vibrates on a high frequency that cannot go unnoticed by anyone in her presence. There is just something about that sister that is virtually intangible.

I particularly admire how Erykah has incorporated African culture in her music i.e. the displaying of the Ankh, and the pouring of libations. This demonstrates that unlike many of our black artists, Erykah Badu has a strong connection to her culture as a person of African descent. And she’s not afraid to express this. I respect Badu because, regardless of what you may feel about how she expresses her musical talent, she is going “to do her”.

I just want to say to Ms. Badu, thank you for being you. And if no one else has told you today –and of course this is obvious wishful thinking, as you have a countless multitude of male suitors and admirers LOL- I LOVE YOU TIL INFINITY!!!!

About Doshon Farad

Doshon Farad is a staff writer for Your Black World and Your Black Bloggers. He writes for several publications. He's also a broadcast journalist. He can be followed on twitter @doshonfarad. And on Facebook You can contact him at

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