Queen Latifah has reportedly said that she is “not coming out” and she will not disclose her sexual orientation. Recently, Raven Symone also reportedly stated that she was not willing to disclose her sexual orientation.
First of all, just to be clear, everyone has the right to “come out” or not or to say that they will not discuss their personal life in a public forum. That being said, when a celebrity’s sexual orientation comes into question, the only way to stop the rumor mill from going wild is to publicly state the truth.
The issue that I see with Queen Latifah’s decision to make a public statement about her decision to remain silent about her sexual orientation is that it is like speaking out of both sides of her mouth. If she was going to ignore what was being said, she could have just not participated in interviews on the subject and just ignored the rumors. On the other hand, being interviewed and then saying that she is not going to reveal something that people are curious about does not serve her or the Gay community.
If Queen Latifah is indeed gay, her unwillingness to “come out” suggests that, unlike what she said, she is not willing to “stand with her people”. If she is not gay, it would also be easier for her to just say so. Of course, people will still speculate and continue to wonder but it will certainly not be to the degree it is when she remains silent about the issue.
Keeping your private life out of the tabloids is something that I completely understand. There are a lot of celebrities and non-celebrities who choose to keep their private lives out of the lime light. A good example is Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham. Oprah has stated may times that she prefers to keep her relationship with Stedman private. At the end of the day, though, we still know that Oprah is heterosexual and we understand that the details of her relationship are private.
I have nothing but love for both Queen Latifah and Raven Symone but let’s be “real”-if you were not gay, it would have been easier to just say that you’re not gay. Not saying anything leads people to believe that you are gay and then also begs the question, why won’t you just say it?