Stefany J: Pushing Your Relationship Limits

By Stefany J

It’s amazing how for many of us, getting into the mindset of wanting to improve our physical shape and health has to be something we come to “terms” with before becoming fully engaged. That would explain the spike in gym memberships around January and the first quarter of every year. Many people start the year off with resolutions and often, getting into shape makes the top of the list. I know for me, in the past it absolutely has and unfortunately, I have seen that same conviction sail off into the sunset by week three. *Smile.

I was thinking about it the other day and can say that as a corporate executive,  I have found similar sentiments when it comes to people and their work. For example, you can easily spot an employee or colleague who is clearly on the fast track to success. You witness their exuberance and commitment, and eventually the sculpting and finished product manifests itself and is visible to the naked eye. In fact, while initially you will begin to see “signs” of their working out, the results are something that manifest over time and when they do, its undeniable the work that has been put in.

The same holds true for relationships and everything else in life. The more work you put in, the more you get in return. The more attention you pay to improving performance, fortitude, resilience and stamina, the stronger you become. The more you invest in the sculpting, beauty, and toning of your finished product, the more aesthetically pleasing it is to the naked eye. At the end of the day we can resolve and decide to get on the good foot in health, fitness, work or relationships and sincerely have an earnest desire to succeed and do well. At the same time it is just as easy to become unmotivated with the slightest trigger and have that heartfelt desire take flight with the quickness and then return to habits of old.

If a healthy, beautiful, and strengthened relationship is what you desire then the work must be put in and time must be invested. The commitment to working for the envisioned outcome must remain in tact and beyond the quit factor. Either way, the outcome has always been and will always be up to us and what we create and come forth with will always be evidence of the measure of our investment from every side.