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Nomalanga: Women Like Dwayne Wade’s Ex-Wife Ruin it for Others

I just read about the sequence of events that lead to Dwayne Wade’s ex-wife, Siohvaugn Funches-Wade getting arrested. Now it is being reported she may lose her visitation rights. Funches-Wade allegedly failed to bring her children to the airport so that they could fly back to be with their father, Dwayne Wade, on Father’s day.

Last year it was widely reported that Wade fought tirelessly to win custody of his children and have them live with him. Now, I am not a legal expert, but even I know that it is extremely hard to find a judge who will award custody to a father rather than a mother and even when you do find such judges, they do so sparingly.

The fact that Funches-Wade’s children were taken away from her and custody was awarded to their Father already had one of my eye brows raised and then when I heard about the case against her being accused of child abduction, it started to become very difficult to give her the benefit of the doubt.

As a mother, myself, I am keenly aware of the importance of each of my children’s relationship with their father. To say that it is important is an understatement. Just this past weekend, on Father’s Day, I wrote a blog that stressed the importance of mothers taking a very active role in making sure that their children have relationships with their fathers.

The reason why I think that women like Siohvaugn Funches-Wade ruin it for others is that she seems to be an obstruction to Wade’s relationship with his children rather than than being the person who is supporting the efforts of him building and maintaining a relationship with his children. I know too many men who have the desire to love and have great relationships with their children but, unfortunately, they have chosen to have children with women who would cut off their nose to spite their face. These women usually have some unfinished emotional business with the father of their child and use their child (or children) as a pawn in their malicious revenge games.

Funches-Wade was charged with two counts of attempted child abduction, two counts of unlawful visitation interference and one account of resisting arrest. Sorry, lady, you may have gotten away with ignoring your children’s need to have a relationship with their father but you don’t get to ignore the law and abandon your contractual rights.

The charges leveled against Funches-Wade may seem harsh but maybe that’s what it will take to send a clear message to all women who are no longer actively in a relationship with the father of their children-obstructing a man from loving his children is a very serious and detrimental thing to do. It not only hurts the father of the child, but also the children, in ways that are far beyond what you can imagine.

Too often we hear women talking about how “trifling” the father of their children is and how he never comes around or doesn’t seem to be interested in his children. Well, sometimes we need to consider that sometimes men are not avoiding their children; they may be avoiding the mothers of those children and the “drama” that they bring into every visit.

I am well aware that there are men out there who are “trifling” but the case of Dwayne Wade and his ex-wife shows us that before we call a man a dead-beat, we need to consider that he may be dealing with a dead-beat mother.

About Nomalanga

Nomalanga helps Black Women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , Assistant Professor of Professional Studies and the reigning Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s blog at www.successfulblackwoman.com

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