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Nomalanga: What Black Women Can Learn from Meagan Good
I have been following a lot of news about Meagan Good and her vow to remain celibate until her and her Pastor/Producer husband are married.
To some this may seem the most far-fetched idea that they can think of because celibacy is something that society has dismissed as both outdated and unrealistic.
Let’s think about it though-Think about all the negative information that is currently circulating about Black women in America and the rest of the world. Let’s start with the rate of HIV infection as well as other sexually transmitted diseases. Let’s think about the rates of teenage pregnancy and the rate of single parenthood, much of which is the result of unplanned pregnancies and pre-marital intercourse.
I am not one to jump to conclusions that I cannot support with credible sources so I will not do that but I think we need to, at the very least, consider that Meaghan Good may just be somewhat of a hero. She is going against the grain and setting an example. I don’t believe she is saying that she is “pure” and angelic and that the rest of us are “sinners”. That would be off-putting. She is however, saying that it is possible for a young woman to stand her ground and do something different and still be popular, attractive and “modern”.
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Nomalanga helps Black Women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , Assistant Professor of Professional Studies and the reigning Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s blog at www.successfulblackwoman.com
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Shelley Curtis
May 31, 2012 at 3:41 pm
I for one am a BIG fan of Meagan’s and have been for quite some time. Not just due to her recent stance on celibacy but for her acting ability and the fact that I’ve always admired women of any age who manage to keep away from drama and bad behavior.
I am probably old enough to be her mother (though, I don’t look it..Lol) but, I would not call necessarily call her a Hero.
As a Christian we align our lives with the Word of God and this is definitely a process. My husband and I waited to have sex until after we were married and I don’t consider myself a Hero. It’s doing what we have been called and/or instructed by God to do. I do agree that she is setting a great example for other young women, which is all of our responsibility whether we take it seriously or not.
Ducky, as my 19 year old daughter and I like to call Meagan is a beautiful young lady. And I pray her continuted strength in her marriage as I am sure her and her fiance are aware of the attacks and criticisms that will come their way.
May God continue to Bless and Keep them.
Shelley
abyrd
May 31, 2012 at 5:10 pm
This is great. I love that she did this. It’s a great example.
marcus davis
May 31, 2012 at 6:22 pm
I think that its refreshing to see a young woman make a stand to say that she is going to remain celebate until she marries.I don,t personally think it has anything to do with being a christian and more to do with common sense especially in todays climate where everybody is bed hopping with just about everybody else and diseases are rampant especially hiv.
Kim
June 1, 2012 at 12:01 am
Praise God. I like many others wish we could turn the clock and do the same probably. Looking at hindsight I can’t imagine how many truly wish they could. She is going to be motivational to many. God bless!
freeze
June 1, 2012 at 5:30 am
I hope some of the other ladies of color follow your example.
Renee
June 2, 2012 at 1:20 pm
Praise God! This can and should be done by anyone who has a relationship with Jesus Christ. Along the journey we as Christians learn who we are in Christ and what it means to be Christian. Once we discover our value there isn’t anything or anyone but our selves who can take it away. Yes, Meagan is a good example for all not just females. I want people to know that you can stay a virgin until marriage. We know how to keep ourselves from temptation, not putting ourselves in spiritual and physical positions to be tempted. God is good! We must learn to trust him. God has chosen that perfect one for each of us, but we as humans sometimes think we know better than God. We jump the gun then find ourselves in a mess, and the mess usually has a domino effect if you know what I mean. Some things we don’t even have to go through if we would just obey the Word of God and continue to follow Christ.
gunzNrosez
June 2, 2012 at 8:17 pm
I totally agree with the writer “N” I also believe that “M” is not doing this to show that she’s innocent and pure. I believe as the author states that this act of celebacy is possible for our women if we stand for it. Even if you are a virgin we can still keep ourselves until marriage if we so desire. It is up to us (women) to stand the ground and if he want you as much as he “claim” he would wait with you. why should we give ourselves to every boyfriend we meet (temporarely) when we could save ourselves for marriage permenantly. It will also help reduce unwanted pregnancies, broken family cirle (children being raised by the mothers’ without fathers) std’s and broken hearts. I say we should “Dare” take a stand and “wait”