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Nomalanga:What we can learn from Martin Lawrence’s Divorce
It is being widely reported that after less than three years of marriage and 13 years “together” , Martin Lawrence and his wife, Shamicka Gibbs are getting divorced. Apparently, the couple had been together for 13 years and had two daughters together before they decided to tie the knot in 2010 and now it’s all over!
This is a very interesting trend that I have noticed does not only plague Hollywood couples. We see it all the time; two people who date for a very long time and are seemingly happy together decide to get married and end up getting divorced soon after-the relationship that they had before they got married lasted longer than the marriage.
I was just having a Facebook discussion in which I suggested that the lesson that can be learned from a lot of these unfortunate “train wrecks’ that they call marriages is that when people get married, especially after dating for a long time, it is important not to suddenly come up with a new set of expectations.
The way I put is was this: When people get married they change their expectations but the truth is you can’t live with a “dog” for years and then hope that after the wedding it will stop barking and start purring like a cat. It is a dog and it will continue to bark. If you wanted a cat, you should have married a cat.
Now, just to be clear, I’m NOT saying men are dogs-okay? What I am saying is…Read the rest at www.successfulblackwoman.com
About nomalanga
Nomalanga is a professional speaker and a Life Strategist for Black Women and College students. She also shares information with educators and corporations about how they can engage “Gen Y” and minority students. Nomalanga is a wife and a mother to two beautiful children. She is an Assistant Professor of Professional Studies at a local college and the founder NOMA UNlimited which offers success programs that focus on achieving individual goals through Personal Development as well as success programs for college students and educators. Nomalanga’s blog: www.successfulblackwoman.com
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Lemmy
April 29, 2012 at 2:18 pm
I’m offended by this article.
James
May 1, 2012 at 1:11 pm
I’m offended too. That’s the best analogy she can come up with and then say, “I’m NOT saying men are dogs-okay.” I had no interest in reading further.
Procelain
May 1, 2012 at 9:37 pm
The story/article could have had a better (professional ending). The times we are living in are simply, we all live in a fantasy and we do go out of our way to change the other. When the one person we should be concerned with is ourselves and our relationship with God and than our man or woman. We lack so much in our time and what we do not seem to understand is relationship is work and some of us are not willing to put in the work, like how do you fall out of love with someone?