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Nomalanga: Are Black Men disabled?
Today, I received a message from a man who described himself as “a disabled black man”. He asked me a very important question in response to some of my posts that talk about what black men want or what black women want. For the purpose of this post, I will call him “G”.
G: what about black men
Me: What about them, G?
G: You wrote about what black women want – well as a black disabled male, I know they do not want disabled males
Because I do not personally know G, I had to assume that he was physically or mentally challenged and that is what he was referring to as “disabled”. This got me thinking; we all have some form of “disability” and “black men” are no different. In addition to that, I believe that black men have a collective “disability” that is unique to them. Through no choice of their own, they have been built into many people’s minds as a threat and every day, they have to overcome that “disability”. The Trayvon Martin case has reminded us that black men and boys can even be brutally killed because of this “disability”.
Here is how I responded to “G”:
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Nomalanga is a professional speaker and a Life Strategist for Black Women and College students. She also shares information with educators and corporations about how they can engage “Gen Y” and minority students. Nomalanga is a wife and a mother to two beautiful children. She is an Assistant Professor of Professional Studies at a local college and the founder NOMA UNlimited which offers success programs that focus on achieving individual goals through Personal Development as well as success programs for college students and educators. Nomalanga’s blog: www.successfulblackwoman.com
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anonymous
April 23, 2012 at 3:29 pm
I don’t believe that black men are disabled…but there are forces keeping black men down.
First, black men have embraced the thug culture. Their clothes, speech, and attitude lead them into unemployment and the crimminal justice system. Back in the 1980′s black men were into the pretty boy/preppy culture which made them a force to be recokened with.
Second, discrimination against black men has reached epidemic levels. They are immediately shunned when they enter certain buildings, apply for jobs, walk through certain areas, try to catch a taxi.
Finaly, the black woman has turned her back on the black man. Many sisters ignore black men and/or show fear when the see a blackman. You see them everyday. They are educated, employed and most times only associate with whites on and off the job. They mostly date white men.
Another irony is the church sistah’s who pretend that black men are dangerous unless they see them in church.
Disbaled…no…making poor choices that play into the hands of a dangerous society…yes.
bob
April 23, 2012 at 6:50 pm
The kind of woman that a man wants determines what she will accept. If the woman is disabled, she might accept a disabled man. Otherwise, she may prefer someone who isn’t. Most women (& men) want the best looking person that they can get. If a man has a disfiguring disability, and, has a choice, she will select the man who is not disfigured. Additionally, the “disabled man” may have a bad disposition to go with his disability. It may not be fair but… that is the way it is.
kathy arnold
April 23, 2012 at 9:52 pm
THEY ARE A PRODUCT OF THEIR ENVIROMENT! SOME JUST DON’T KNOW OR CARE TO KNOW,SO THEY JUST FOLLOW THE LEADER, THAT LEADS THEM TO JAIL.DISABLE MENTALITY.