Comments on: Are Black Women Killing Themselves to be Superheroes?

By: GemGirl

GemGirl — Sun, 15 Jul 2012 23:01:57 +0000

I retired my Strong Black Woman cape slowly over time beginning about a decade ago. I caught flack from people who still wanted to lean on me (particularly family members), but I no longer carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. I am 50 but look mid-30s in age due to limiting the amount of stress I absorb from other people who had unrealistic expectations (as well as getting rid of certain expectations of myself that had been indoctrinated into me).

As a result, I am a happier woman. Never again will I allow others to dictate my sense of worth — nor self-impose a role that burdens me beyond what is reasonable.

I have embraced being as gentle and loving with myself as I can be with others. I have developed boundaries that really work well for me because I don’t take on other people’s problems or anticipate their needs anymore just so I can feel valuable or show how dependable I can be.

When I give of myself or share my resources , it truly comes from the heart and less due to feeling obligation now.

By: BigWill

BigWill — Sun, 15 Jul 2012 16:32:54 +0000

David W. Johnson Jr, if it’s true that it takes one to know one then you are the epitome of “nigger male trash” Actually, you sound exactly like a frustrated homosexual whitenigger. Burn in hell FAG.

By: Cindie

Cindie — Sun, 15 Jul 2012 04:43:04 +0000

We African-American women are the hardest working women on the planet, getting the least amount of respect! And when a sistah falls ill (it’s generally the ones who work the hardest), it INFURIATES me when the “laziest among us” make some negative comment about her being “a fool” for working so hard! And I hear those inane comments by our own stupid men (and some women), all the time.

By: Charlotte Robinson

Charlotte Robinson — Sun, 15 Jul 2012 03:19:14 +0000

This stuff is really funny it’s like some people have nothing else to do but put everyone into a nice and neat category. If they’re not talking about how we can’t get men or how our men don’t want us, they’re finding some way to say something negative about us somehow or another. And I’m personally tired of hearing it. There is no way on earth for you to dump everyone into a category. But nevertheless, let’s talk about us being supper women {and don’t let the picture of Christ that display for my page mislead you I’m an Africa American Female, 1st I’m female, 2nd I’m American been here for almost 400 years, and 3rd I’m Africa that’s something I’m most proud of BUT most people don’t recognize Christ as a Black man not even Africans; but I digress}

I read something like this before entitled “How to Treat a Black Man,” it was saying that Black Women put their children before Black Men, what was some trash. If we didn’t do the things that we do there would be No Black doctors, No Black lawyer, No Black politics, No Black nurses, No Black people for all these people with their head up their asses to complain about. Instead of talking about how it cost us relationships they should be pointing that without, women like us the race would have died out long ago. Men going around having babies with 5 or 10 different women without using birth control THE WOMEN ARE JUST AS DUMB have babies by men who ain’t gone never have a regular job to correctly support them nor even be there for them.

Before I leave this subject how many women give up everything for their family and children because I know of a whole bunch that’s half stepping and ain’t even tiring to be good mothers. If they real wanted to do something good — advices the women who do give their all to take care of family and children — to take better care of their health because this too shall pass and when it does you want to be in good health so you can enjoy your own life, children grow-up, family members get well, die, or go to jail they move on. We need more women to step up to the plate and help to make better citizens because we got to many people thinking that the world own them something because they’re here.

By: legallychisis

legallychisis — Sun, 15 Jul 2012 02:07:54 +0000

I agree with the article 100%. We African American women are aware of this superhero complex. Similar to the ghetto-nigger mentality it not an easy one to break. We were raised to be strong. I agree we carry too much of a load, but if not us then who? I commend all of my single mother sistas. If they don’t financially, emotionally support our children (who’s dead bead azz daddy doesn’t) WHO WILL? This article only solidifies the fact that our men that don’t take care of their responsibilities as MEN need step up PERIOD. We need to come together as a people men and women and look out for one another LIKE OTHER RACES DO!

By: Phillip Battle

Phillip Battle — Sun, 15 Jul 2012 00:06:59 +0000

Blame the victim Mr Johnson I for one fill the pain of seeing my brothers living a heathen life style- yet for me to disregard the cause of such inhumane behavior – would undermine the history of an enslaved people- and it’s impact on their psychological stability- not to make an excuse for such ignorance- the ones who aren’t as strong or fortunate as others that had guidance in their life. Face it- those who have penal stock investments would try to hang you from the nearest tree for trying to get rid of their commodities. Yes you strong Black resilient Queen- that yard stick you maybe using to measure your man should be examined on a level field of opportunity as well as systemic erasing of the most threatening Man on Gods earth. History has proven that we Black Men will rise above all obstacles for the sake of his family. Be stronger than before and help us be true men instead the house negro who’s afraid too help the Black Man in the field. Boycott Christmas 2012.

By: Rochelle Nikkol

Rochelle Nikkol — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 19:58:56 +0000

Harsh but true, I don’t think many people are willing to state the facts as you have. Its real! This our life and our people. What are we doing about it?

By: David W. Johnson Jr.

David W. Johnson Jr. — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 19:47:24 +0000

Our Afrian American Women Are Doing Much More Positives Things To Save Our Children, Our Race And Support And Re-Elect Our President Than These “So-Called African American Men” Who Are No More Than “nigger male trash.” Out There Raping And Molesting Their Own Daughters And Granddaughters, Setting Outside Liquor Stores Getting Paid To Buy Liquor For Children That Should Be In School. Then These Pieces Of Trash Pastors And Priest Having Sex With Children In Their Own Churches. I Say It All The Time From The Bottom Of My Heart, “I Would Father God & Lord Jesus Would Get So Angry And Remove These Racist Pieces Of Trash And They Worthless “niggers” From This World. Just Save And Rebuild The Communities For Our REAL AFRICAN AMERICAN MEN AND WOMEN.